Honesty

April 10, 2012

Let me tell you a boring story,


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I had a really big insecurity. As probably those of you have passed this stage, I was afraid to shout out my opinion


My mom always told me, "do this, and you'll be loved", "don't do this, or they will hate you". And stuffs that create my young self as a good child.


But life doesn't work always that way. I held back a lot


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When I had a fight, not only with my family, but also my friends, I couldn't say the reasons why I was mad, or upset.


I only said, "no it's fine, everything's alright"


 I never talked bad, or said something that makes people feel bad. Because I was afraid people would hate me for the way I was. I wanted to be loved, and had everyone as my friends


It's like when your girlfriend wore something that doesn't suit her body type, but you can't say anything instead of "oh wow you're pretty!"


which is totally a lie. . .


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But then,


is it good if it happens continuously ?


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Is this the purpose of life?


Telling people all the good things that they want to hear


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Back again,


what's the meaning of being loved by everyone?


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Is it even, necessary?


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We're, humans..


We don't always have good side, but also bad side as well


Although we try our best to conceal it, we will still have it no matter what. Because we are not angels


Sure we try to do our best to become better person,


but it doesn't mean we're free of guilt or sin


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No matter what happens, or what we do,


there will always people hate or dislike us


But,


there will always also some people who love us for the way we are


7 billions people in this world are living right now, and it doesn't mean that everyone's gonna hate you, nor love you


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That's a life


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And people grow stronger and enrich their experience through those things


I had stopped caring about people's thoughts afterwards


Sure it's not easy to suddenly change my point of view


But instead of being loved for who I am not, I would rather be hated for what I really am


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Think again, if you lie to yourself and to your friends about what you really think,


do they really love you?


Are you okay living your life like that?


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I then began to think,


if I am hated, then what?


It's not like my life is going to be turned upside down just because of someone hates me


If you're afraid of that thought, always think,


that this small matter will be laughed at by yourself 5 years later


If you still think it's going to be a problem even after 5-10 years, then you may re-think what you act


Losing someone just because you shout out your opinion doesn't even worth your time to be in agony


It just means that they aren't good enough to be your close one


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Accept your own flaw, admit it, then you can become stronger!


If your close friends acknowledge your bad side and accept you the way you are, and so do you, cherish it


Becoming close doesn't mean you only know their good side only, but also bad side! And when you can accept it, that is what is called a good relationship. Whether it's family, friends, or even lover?


If you hold back, other parties will never know what you think of


And it's just the matter of time before the explosion


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That's why when people say about how I deal with haters and I say that I don't care, it's a truth, yet a lie


I do think about it, sometimes I feel sad. But then again, why should I care?


There will always someone that know the real you, or if you dont have, go find one!


It's a life, and that's the real world


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You can't expect everyone, and impress the whole world


Even, the Perfect God has haters,


why should you complain about some groups that dislike you?


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Now I am not afraid to shout out most of my opinions


I get talked, and disliked yes


But then, so what? I still have my life, and I still have friends that love me and accept me the way I am


They tell me things that they don't like about myself


I was afraid before this but in fact it's useless because I was afraid of nothing!


Life will be easier if people speak honestly


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Photo on 2012-03-20 at 10.33

Don't lose to yourself, Don't lose your own personality


Speak up your opinion and be honest


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